Howard, I’m Sorry Your Dinner Was Spoiled

On June 7th I posted a blog about the passing of William T. Joyce. Uncle Bill. At the time my Aunt Rosemary was in ill health as well. This morning – June 16th – she rejoined her husband.

I had been in contact with my cousin Debbie, the Howard in the title of this blog, so Aunt Rosemary’s passing was not exactly a surprise. Nevertheless, I cannot imagine the level of grief this loss has brought to my cousin’s immediate family. Even the expected passing of a loved one is difficult to face. To lose both parents in such a short span must surely test one’s faith. My parents passed away 39 years apart. Rosemary left 18 days after Bill.

Again, I stole this info from her obituary. Aunt Rosemary was born was born April 20, 1937, in Effingham, Il, the daughter of Mack Ellis and Rosa Lee Colwell Mahon. She married William T. “Bill” Joyce on June 9, 1956 in Granite City, IL. He passed away May 29, 2021. She passed away at 7:05 AM on June 16, 2021 age 84.

I won’t include the rest of it because nothing has changed regarding the surviving kids, grandkids and great grandkids. It’s only been 18 days, remember. My father was thirteen when his youngest sister was born so there was a rather significant age gap. He left for college when Rosemary was five, or six. I was four when Aunt Rosemary married Uncle Bill. If I was at the wedding, I have no memory of it. I do remember visiting the house in Granite City, so I probably saw her on those early visits. My grandmother passed away in 1960, and I don’t remember going back to Granite City after that.

I don’t have many photos of my paternal grandparents. The ones I do possess are courtesy of Debbie. Thank you. In the photos I have of Aunt Rosemary as an older aunt, she reminds me of my grandmother. I don’t know if this is actually true, or just my memory of Nanny has faded because she’s been gone over 60 years.

Being my own boss has its perks. I can give myself a day off whenever I need. I could even fire myself if I desire. Next week I will travel to Bloomington again. That’s the plan anyway. I will do my best not to get too emotional. I know Pam will lose it, and that’s perfectly understandable. I will listen to the stories about Rosemary, and no doubt learn new things. One thing I already know is she suffered from poor health, but overcame the odds against her survival to surprise her kids many times. My mother did the same thing. This is pure speculation on my part, but perhaps to fought to stay alive because she didn’t want Uncle Bill to have to grieve over her. Whatever the reason, they are together again. Never to be parted for all eternity.

6 Replies to “Howard, I’m Sorry Your Dinner Was Spoiled”

    1. You’re welcome. Most of my blogs are meant to be humorous, and unfortunately most of the serious ones are about someone passing away. Again, I’m sorry for your loss.

  1. What a long 6 weeks this has been! I was not able to see Mom and Dad at all in 2020 because of Covid…. When restrictions were relaxed at the nursing home they were in, I traveled to see them, which was the first week of May! I went back home and suddenly, Dad died, and then Mom died 18 days later! I spent 30 days of 42 in hotels, so I could visit and absorb every moment I could with them. Sadly I was only allowed a 15 second glimpse of Dad, but I spent hours with Mom!

    She whispered directions and wishes to me, and she told me her fears and her regrets.

    This is all still a blur… Yesterday, I picked up the phone and dialed their number, and I got a fast busy signal……but the phone was disconnected a month ago! That is the very same sound we got so many times in the past couple years when Mom or Dad would fail to hang the phone up correctly…..

    They are still with us, but now in our hearts and minds…. They have not hung up the phone!


  2. Again, Thank you Ken…..the passing of Mom and Dad so close together was a blur for me, but coming back to read this makes it clearer and I am so appreciative of your talented writing…

    1. I believe their passing so close together was God’s plan. We may not know why, but He will give you the strength to go on. It’s never easy to lose a loved one though it happens to us all.

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